I used to believe that being right was more important than anything else. That standing my ground, proving my point, and never backing down made me strong. I thought that if someone truly cared, they would understand, forgive, and stay no matter what. But I was wrong, and I learned that lesson the hard way.
I had a best friend, someone who had been by my side for years. We shared everything, from our biggest dreams to our smallest fears. She was the kind of person who would drop everything just to be there for me. But I did not realize how much I took her for granted until the day I lost her.
It started with something small, a disagreement over something so insignificant that I do not even remember the details. But my ego would not let me apologize. I let my pride take control, twisting the argument into something much bigger than it needed to be. She tried to reach out, to smooth things over, but I kept waiting for her to say that I was right. I wanted her to come back and prove that she valued our friendship more than her own feelings.
But she did not.
One day, the messages stopped. The calls stopped. The laughter, the late-night talks, the feeling of knowing someone had my back no matter what, all of it was gone. She walked away, and for a long time, I convinced myself that she was the one who gave up. That she should have fought harder for our friendship.
But deep down, I knew the truth.
I let my pride destroy something beautiful. I was so focused on being right that I forgot what really mattered. A true friendship is not about keeping score or winning arguments. It is about understanding, about being willing to put your ego aside for the people who truly care.
I am sorry. Sorry for not realizing sooner. Sorry for making her feel like her feelings did not matter. Sorry for all the times she chose to be kind while I chose to be stubborn.
I do not know if she will ever read this. I do not know if she would even care. But if I could go back, I would choose differently. I would choose kindness over pride, understanding over ego, and friendship over the need to be right.
And to anyone reading this, do not wait until it is too late to learn this lesson. If there is someone in your life you have pushed away over something petty, reach out now. Apologize. Let them know they matter.
Because some losses cannot be undone, no matter how much you regret them.